Tips for Better Decision-Making

The key to positive decision-making is to be able to slow down and recognize what is most important and most helpful to the situation, which is easier said than done. I continually see individuals and companies guide their decision-making process with impulse and reactivity. This ultimately results in satisfying a short-term need or stopping the process within a comfort level, rather than aligning with long-term goals or creative visions. If an individual is overconfident or lacks confidence, they tend to rush into a decision.

Growing self and other awareness, described as emotional intelligence, automatically shifts the dynamic of any interaction and plays a key role in the decision-making process. Good decision-making involves an ability to be intentional about acts that are in line with priorities and values. Individuals and companies who utilize a mindful, values-based approach, rather than allowing thoughts and emotions to dictate reactions, are able to remain calm, adjust and adapt to the situation at hand, and move decisively towards their true end game. When the process is slowed down in this way, the next five minutes actually feel like five minutes, as opposed to 30 seconds.

Top Qualities of a Strong Relationship

Strong relationships involve flexibility, communication, intentionality, fun, compassion, and an overall sense of togetherness.  Life can be challenging and it’s special to go through it with someone that has your back.  Having a sense of togetherness does not necessarily mean agreeing all the time.  Being able to mutually see that what your partner is going through makes sense for them, based on who they are and how they think and feel, is crucial for good connection.

Flexibility in a relationship means that there is a sense of give-and-take.  There will be times that your partner asks you to participate in something that you're not so keen on doing, and yet, because your partner is someone that is important to you, there's a willingness to share the experience. It is important, however, to not fall into the trap of bargaining. This is not a tit-for-tat relationship.  Each moment is a separate event where you check with yourself about what is most important to you.  To be in a strong partnership, it is important to show up to support your partner.

Good communication involves acknowledging what is happening for you in the moment and telling your partner. When they are speaking to you about something meaningful, being able to disconnect from your own internal dialogue to show up and really listen to your partner, without reactivity, is essential.  Too often we get stuck in the trap of trying to come up with our own response or quickly reacting to what our partner has said, rather than listening with empathy to what it is that our partner is telling us.

Strong relationships involve being intentional.  Often times, we run on autopilot and we fall into the trap of reacting or going with the flow without thinking.  In a meaningful relationship, you are aware of what is most important to you, as well as to your partner, and are intentional about what is best for the two of you.

Can't forget about fun! Whether this is scheduled fun or spontaneous fun, there are times to drop the seriousness and just go and enjoy your time with your partner.  This can even be done during times of conflict.  Fun can come in a variety of ways, whether this is low-energy fun like sitting by the fire and reading a book, or high-energy fun like playing sports or dancing, it is important to be able to enjoy your partner's company.

It is important to have compassion not only for yourself and your own struggles, but also to have compassion for your partner.  Life can be so tender, which is why sensitivity, loving energy, and togetherness are at the root of a strong relationship.